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You Can Create A Great Relationship!
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by Susie and Otto Collins, Relationship Coaches
You may believe that creating a great relationship is beyond your
reach and that it's not possible for you to have.
We believe that anyone can create the relationship that they want by
applying some simple ideas in their life and having the commitment
and desire to go for what you want.
To help you create a great relationship, here is some of our best advice:
1.
Communication
problems is often one of the biggest
issues that keep
people from having the relationship they want. One person may agree
to
do something just
to keep the peace and another
person may be wanting
to
be
loved and appreciated in a certain
way but are
not willing to say it.
Both
people end up withholding their truth from each another
because of
fear and even more distance is created between them. To improve your communication, make
sure that each
of you listens to
each other without judgment. This is a
skill that you'll need to learn because
most of
us haven't been
taught how but it's central
to learning how to
communicate with one another in
a healthy way. 2.
Whether you need
marriage advice
or dating advice,
it's important to
begin focusing on your relationship and not allowing it to drift along. So
often, couples put their relationship last in priority
in their lives and they
wake up one morning and find that what they
thought would always be
there, isn't any longer. Begin focusing your
attention on your relationship
and how you want it to be, rather than what you don't want.
3.
Trust
is important to any relationship. For many couples, fears
from the
past get in the way of having a trusting, connected relationship. These might
include fearing not
being good enough, attractive enough, wealthy
enough
or even feelings of abandonment.
How can you create your relationship the way you want it to be when you
are hanging on to things that have happened to you in the past. Ask yourself
if your fears are "true" or are they based on pure fabrication. If there's no
basis of
truth
to your fears,
then learn to change your thinking. It's not
always
easy to do and it
takes moment by
moment
monitoring of your thoughts. If
you need help and support to make the changes you want in your life, take
a chance and ask for it.
4. If you or your partner are
jealous, deal with it and heal it.
Most couples
avoid looking at and doing something
about problems like
jealousy
that exist
in their relationship until it's too late and their relationship ends in a
breakup
or divorce. If you don't tackle
this
issue when it comes
up, it tends to fester and comes up anyway
as
resentment and other ways that
can harm your relationship. Jealousy
can be healed and eliminated. You have
to learn the skills that will help
you do this and practice them until the jealousy
disappears. 5.If you want to create more
romance in your relationship, learn to understand,
value and appreciate each other on a daily basis.
Everyone wants to feel
understood,
valued, loved
and appreciated and
when we're not, we tend to
either withdraw or attack the other person for not meeting our needs.
If this
happens, this certainly can inhibit romance between the two of you. We
suggest
that if you want to enhance love in your relationship, you begin to be more
loving
and just see what happens. For more advice about creating great
relationships, visit
http://www.SusieandOtto.com
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